massive fit

caleb has been on an "i want mommy to do it" trip...it really is the most irritating thing EVER.  "i want mommy to wake me up," "i want mommy to put on my clothes," "i want mommy to sit by me when i eat breakfast/dinner"....and on and on and on.  we talked to him about it and he was better for a day, but this evening was ridiculous.  he refused to eat his dinner, didn't listen when i told him over and over to sit down, so i picked him up to take him to bocha and he started throwing a fit...swinging at me and even hitting me while i was carrying him.  we went in the bathroom and he got some pinches and eventually calmed down and said he wanted me to feed him.  i did, only because i wanted him to eat and be done with it.  then the three of us had some ice cream but he didn't get any because of his behavior, which caused another massive fit.  finally i took him in the bathroom, forced him to take a bath, all the while having him screaming, crying, trying to get away from me, hitting, flicking, etc.  needless to say he is in the bedroom and has been since his bath and brushing teeth.  after he calmed down i wrote down rules, consequences and rewards and then we listed all of the ways he had misbehaved. 

i'm sure tonight my bedtime reading will be articles on more effective dealings with these frickin fits cuz all i really wanna do is body slam him when he acts this way.